Showing posts with label funeral. Show all posts
Showing posts with label funeral. Show all posts

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Sulawesi: Hits Every Nerve

November 13, 2010


I arrived in Sulawesi (east of Kalimantan) four nights ago and I have very mixed feelings about the place. Lucky for you my day is ending better than it started. :) As you know my arrival started off on a bad foot when after asking for a map at the information booth I was escorted to a travel agent. He then tried to sell me a package to Tana Toraja (where I am now) for a ridiculous amount. When I said the prices seemed high he got mad and started cursing about my Lonely Planet book being *!#*^! and he was nasty with me. I met an older French gentleman at my hotel here and he paid for the package. I don’t know if he booked with the same man, but it was the same scam (didn’t mean to rhymn!). He was irate that he paid twice as much and to salt the wounds even more his guide switched people on him and the motor bike also broke down. He missed the high caste funeral yesterday because of his guide and the bike. He was making the tour company pay for his five nights at the hotel to make the feel more reasonable.


Along this vein, I spoke with a couple this morning who has traveled India and SE Asia for a year and they said Indonesia has more scammers than they’ve encountered elsewhere. I felt the scammers for transport in Bali, but mostly I’ve just felt it here. They’ve been pick pocketed elsewhere, but didn’t come across so many scams.


I had a pleasant evening in Makassar, the main city that I had flown into. I climbed onto another bus the next morning that was supposed to be 8-9 hours, but turned out to be 10 ½ hours. I’m learning never to believe the estimates as much as I hope they are true. This bus “had AC,” but it just spat out luke cold (is that a phrase?) air and I think open windows would have been better. To make matters worse I sat across the aisle from an old school European who didn’t believe in deodorant. I jinxed myself because I walked by him before we boarded the bus and hoped I wouldn’t sit near him. And what do you know! I attribute my headache throughout the ride to his hygiene choice. The plus side was this bus did have a pop up ottoman so I was able to avoid the cankles I got on the earlier bus ride. For better and for worse I sat just behind and to the left of the driver. This helped me keep from getting carsick with his driving, but it also gave me prime seating for all the close calls we had.


There was no nice highway like from the airport. He drove fast when he could and then would brake hard. The speedometer didn’t work so I can’t say how fast. Then he plodded along the gravel and pot holes. He also made sure he passed everyone no matter how tight the squeeze was. And to let everyone know where he was and to make them get out of the way he honked. Now this is common practice here, especially when passing, but he seemed to have a particular obsession with honking. Every few seconds the horn would go and I think it was louder inside the bus than outside. Once again my prime seat gave me an intimate experience. I thought I was rather prepared for the trip with my sarong (i.e. blanket), socks, food, journal, water, and book, but apparently I needed my earplugs. I noticed at times that local passengers were nervous (though not as frequently as me) and some pedestrians on the road literally made a dash to get out of his way. Chickens and dogs also had to scurry because he definitely wasn’t slowing down for them. Survival of the fittest seems to kick in early here in terms of watching the road. There are a couple of chickens I’m not sure made it. Little kids here are much more aware than at home – at least the ones who make it. Grabbing the arm seat as we took fast curves in the mountains became my standard position. On one of these turns, the daypack of the old school European came crashing down on my head. I think the sign on the bus should read “Hati Hati” – Bahasa Indonesian for “Danger – Be Careful!”


I’m taking another bus ride tomorrow so I’ll put to use my lessons learned - pack my eye mask and my ear plugs so that I am blissfully ignorant of how close the calls are. I might need nose plugs too because despite the non-smoking rule the driver lit up the last hour of the way.


On these buses you can ask the driver to drop you anywhere along his route. This added probably an hour to the trip, but I thought at least I’d get to take advantage. So I told my driver the hotel in Rantepao (in the Tana Toraja region) and he understood. Later the old school European and his friend told him there hotel and I think the driver assumed we were together since we’d been talking. So he zipped by my stop and dropped me at their place. He didn’t seem to apologetic or concerned and a man with a motor bike offered to take me for 5,000 rp ($0.60). I refused to pay when the driver had messed up. I considered looking at this hotel, but it was on the noisy main street and I hated to cancel my reservation. The man said the driver had paid the fee (yeah right) and he took me for free. I’m sure his motive was to get my business as a guide the next day, which he got. I didn’t have time to waste finding a guide the next morning because another funeral was waiting. This guy, John, said he is an official guide (unlikely), but I had good feeling and we negotiated a price I was comfortable with (mind you this was much less than the airport maniac quoted me).


After a long two days of traveling I was looking forward to my shower. Low and behold my bathroom had no sink or shower. The lack of sink wasn’t a surprise, but to only have a facet coming out of the wall at hip height was a disappointment. As I was about to “do as the Romans do” and have a bucket bath, I realized there was no towel, soap or toilet paper. I hobbled down the stairs (my knee is acting up on the stairs again) and asked for and thankfully received them. Another hotel made me go out and buy my own tp and some don’t provide soap. So I finally got my cold bath. The cold was less bearable now that I’m in the mountains and the evenings are cooler.


I considered switching hotels the next morning because I really wanted a shower (and they had told me they had one – lost in translation). I worked out moving to another room though that had a shower AND hot water. I thought I was in heaven, but I should have remembered that in the budget hotels you gain one thing and lose another (even if you pay a bit more). I rejoiced under the warm water – for about 3 minutes. Apparently, I need to speed shower. I do have a sink, but it drains onto the floor. There’s a floor drain, but I preferred to put the large bucket under there. Then I use the water to flush the toilet. Most toilets here don’t flush the western way, but have water thrown into the bowl to wash it through. Sometimes that results in lots of water on the toilet seat. Although many places have a squat toilet rather than a western style one. The bucket flush is the same though. Again, tp is usually AWOL so I always carry a stash. Back to my new hotel bathroom – so I’m having my shower and turn to see one of the policemen staying at the hotel leering at me through the high window. I yelled at him and he scurried off of whatever he was standing on. I was furious and upset (still am). I’m not sure which “polisi” it was, but I saw the hat. I told the hotel owners and asked them to cover both my high windows with cloth. I also made use of my ducktape by taping down the drapes. There was a gap at the edges that could be peered into. I haven’t heard a single good thing about the polisi and now my experience leaves me with nothing good to say. The owner had told the police boss at the hotel so I had hoped that at least he would apologize for his man’s behavior, but that was apparently asking too much. So you hope that having police stay at your hotel makes you safer…


The polisi are here in large numbers to keep the peace after elections 3 days ago. A tourist couple said they asked their guide if he voted and he said no. He said they are rigged and votes are bought. He also said you can be killed by the candidate you didn’t vote for. I hope that’s an exaggeration, but I have no idea. This all sounds very Tammany Hall to me. I have less and less faith in Obama’s claim that Indonesia is a model democracy for developing nations. I think “his peeps” need to do a little recon – go undercover as tourists or expats.



Yesterday was packed with sightseeing. John took me to see cave burials and a funeral. The main tourist attraction in Tana Toraja is the burial traditions. We saw graves, some recent, in the cliff face overlooking rice fields. People are buried inside and a “door” covers the carved out space. Two funerals often occur for the deceased. The first happens immediately after death and the second is a four-day one that is held after enough cash has been raised. After the four day ceremony has occurred, meaning sacrifices have been made, a statue of the deceased is carved and usually placed at the cave, but visible. Some high caste families have the statues in the home. Between the two funerals the body is kept in the best room of the house and the family and guests are obliged to sit, chat and have coffee with them. The rice fields here were being harvested so I got to see that for the first time.


Lonely Planet described the funeral rites as “brutal and captivating.” I can attest to the brutal character, but captivating no. On my first day in Sulawesi I saw my first water buffalo, on my second day I saw my first slaughter of a buffalo. From what I saw the formal funeral is a massive slaughter. We parked a distance from the funeral so we didn’t get blocked in and as we walked we saw several pigs tied to bamboo poles being carried to the house. They couldn’t move and were laid on their side when they got to the house. Some squealed and others seemed to accept the situation or had given up. Again, I tried to give them comfort through telepathy.


The ceremony takes place at the family’s home and there are open-air buildings arranged and subdivided for different groups. As we entered this area I saw hundreds of people, pigs tied to bamboo and a slaughtered water buffalo. The children (and maybe grandchildren) of the deceased family were dressed in special attire. The girls had their hair pulled up and sprayed with probably a bottle each of hairspray. Flowers also decorated the quaff. They wore beaded overlays to their clothes, which were orange, red, black and white. They lined a walkway leading into the sitting area for the most revered guests. There were a few processions in and out of this area.


A man with a microphone welcomed people, but I never saw any religious leader. Apparently one would perform some rituals after we left. Four water buffalo were in the large central grass area and they tied the largest one to a stake in the middle. He had been a fighting buffalo (it seems cockfighting isn’t the only sport Indonesians like) so was especially large and strong. Actually, another tourist said that at the funeral he attended they had the buffalos fight before slaughter and the crowds really got into it. Back to my funeral, before I realized it his throat had been slit and blood was coming out of his throat like a high speed projectile. The skin below the cut hung down and created a large gape. He reared and made terrible cries. At one point while on the ground, he kicked a large amount of his own blood several feet making some of the guests squeal. I’m not sure if any got the blood on them. His eyes became wide-eyed in disbelief and panic. It seemed to take forever for him to die as he fell down and got back up. It took about four minutes. The butcher had to cut him a couple of more times. John, my guide, wanted me to watch the other sacrifices, but I couldn’t bear it.


I had forced myself to witness one because of their tradition, but there was no need to watch more. For the Indonesians there was no horror in the act. It is such a common experience for them. But I have never seen an animal slaughtered. John didn’t want me to be upset because he didn’t want their tradition to be insulted or disrespected. I held my tongue so the thoughts whirling in my head didn’t come out. I know it’s the tradition, but it bothered me that for all the talk I heard about the sacrifice it was largely about the sacrifice the family was making. The buffalos cost several thousand dollars and are provided by the family and in-laws. Pigs are less expensive, but both are seen as necessary to sacrifice. They lead the soul of the deceased to heaven. No religious ritual or thanks was given to the animal for his/her sacrifice. The sacrifice was not made by a religious leader, but by hired butchers (apparently it’s a competitive business). I also would have like the sacrifice to have been done in a way that the animal died faster. Most of you reading this probably eat meat and because of this trip I have started to again after 15 years, so animals die for us as well. But the way in which they die and the way in which we think of their death is important.


As they began to tie up the second buffalo, next to the recently killed one, I walked away. I walked a back way with no path and came to a slippery patch (you know what’s coming). I could hear the pigs squealing as one must have just been slaughtered. To add to my horror, I glanced up and saw the second buffalo fighting his death and with that lost my focus and slipped. I think I gave the guests a funny story for them to tell about the funeral. John came and joined me and we washed my backside as best we could and I cleaned off my camera. By the time I looked up again all four buffalo were dead. The last three died faster thankfully.


We passed a room where the deceased was laid out for viewing. We didn’t go in, but I saw crosses over his coffin. Yes, this family is Christian. I was witnessing a very clear example of cultural diffusion. The pre-Christian funeral traditions have remained strong and modified to fit their Christian beliefs. The majority of this area is Christian as a result of Dutch missionaries sent in, I believe, the 1930s.


We joined the women in the large makeshift kitchen. Huge pots were over open fires, just as all the food was being cooked over open fires. The pigs were actually, after death, placed directly on the fire and continually turned over. They came out all blackened and then were butchered, mixed with vegetables and spices before being cooked in bamboo poles over the fire. The women were friendly and liked the novelty of me being there. Not too many other tourists were at this funeral. The women were giggling and saying something to John. It turns out they wanted to touch my nose, especially those pregnant or newly mothers. They believe that by touching my nose their baby will have my nose and white skin. I keep hearing and seeing how much lighter skin is prized. In the store I see skin whitening lotions and treatments. I think the preference for lighter skin predates significant contact with the west, but I’m sure subsequent history reinforced it. It’s upsetting to keep hearing this theme. Only one woman got up the nerve to touch my nose, but rather than touch she stole just like when we play with kids. After tea and cookies we walked up the hill to where the pigs were being carved and cooked. I actually tried two pieces, but couldn’t stomach anymore. Actually, my stomach got sharp pains that were likely all mentally induced.


We left and visited some other less gruesome sights. I saw traditional homes that have roofs in the shape of a ship. The home has a wooden buffalo head put above the door if a funeral has been held for the owner (the original owner in the family). There are also horns from the buffalos sacrificed at all the family’s funerals. One house was about 60 years old and had four long strings of horns. Rich, high-ranking families might sacrifice as many as 24 buffalo, but commoners usually sacrifice only one. There are four castes here and they do still play a role: noble, administrative (as best I could understand), commoner, and slave.


I also saw a tree that is used to bury babies that were six months old or younger. If they haven’t gotten their teeth yet they are considered pure and can be buried in this rubber tree that has white sap that gives them life. There were little patches over the openings and after 5-7 years the bark grows back and the “door” falls off. All that is left are the holes from the stakes. It’s believed that when the bark heals the baby has gone to heaven. It was sad to see this tree and know that there were many more like it.


The rains came down hard and John didn’t have a poncho so we ducked into a warung (open air “diner”) for at least an hour. Unfortunately, this meant that two sites were closed. Fate seemed to want to right this for today I walked to Londa and had some good luck. I was frustrated after unsuccessful attempts at booking a flight back to Singapore (it has never worked online when I’ve tried to book with an Indonesian airline), much walking to and fro to arrange my bus for tomorrow and then many unsuccessful attempts to get a bemo to Londa. A couple of bemo drivers stopped, but then either worked going my way or refused to talk me. Most just drove right by AND waved! So I walked about 7 km to Londa (the exercise was good for me). As I got near the Londa cave John drove by with another tourist. He waited for me at the entrance and had me join them. I think he felt badly about yesterday. This cave is also used for graves like the cliffs I had seen with John. It was fun just to go spelunking and we went through some tight areas. I hadn’t dressed for crawling or spelunking so I was in a skirt and flip-flops. This time I didn’t fall! But I did hit my head – oops. I still have mud on my knees from crawling. We heard bats and saw stalactites/mites (?) as well as coffins. Offerings are still made to the dead so we saw things like clothes and toys. Many of the bones are visible. At one point while I was walking in a narrow passage and I turned my head and my lamp lit up a skull. Afterwards, John helped me get a ride back to Rantepao because it would get dark soon.


I have a three day trip to get to the Togean Islands and I hope it’s worth it. Tomorrow is a long bus ride, but the next day is supposedly only a 5 hour bus trip. Then I have to overnight while waiting for the morning ferry. Then it will be 2 days to get to Manado’s airport.


I haven’t found the people as friendly here, which is shame because the landscape is beautiful. A few people have been especially nice and helpful.


One more note about Rantepao – they have a lot of beauty salons. Too bad I don’t need a haircut yet.


I can’t upload pictures so again you’ll have to be patient.


Sorry for the mammoth blog – think I can make it into the Guinness Book of World Records!!!

Thursday, October 28, 2010

More Ubud Adventures...



























October 28, 2010


It is such a nice experience to stay in one place for awhile because you get to know different layers of the society and make friends – even become a regular in some places.


Yesterday, I woke up early (7am) to walk one of the routes laid out by Lonely Planet. It was a three hour walk through rice fields and into the outskirts of Ubud and even other villages. You can see the picture of the man drying his rice on the street (maybe forget this image when you order rice next time!). I also saw various art galleries, but resisted buying (I’ve been sooo good!). Along the way I sat and drank nice cold water with the man who owned the little shop. He was very nice and dignified looking. He hopes for his son to become a tour guide one day and wants me to recommend my friends to him. I think his son is still in middle school, but like many parents he wants to safeguard his son’s future.


While we sat an American expat was furiously calling out to his lost dog. He was clearly upset, like most American pet owners would be, and started offering “huge” amounts as a reward and payment to kids who would post fliers. He offered a 500,000 rupiah reward (US $56) on an island where many hard laborers make US $3/day. He offered the kids 50,000 (US $5.60). He didn’t speak Indonesian and wasn’t in the frame of mind to consider that the Indonesians around him might be able to understand so he anxiously demanded his Indonesian wife/girlfriend to translate. She said that was a lot of money and never did translate it. I hope he did find the dog, but it was a reminder of how the value of money is relative and what is considered valuable is relative. My frame of reference for spending is changing also. I hate to spend more than $3 on a meal and $.75 for a liter of bottled water is just ridiculous. Even paying $.85 an hour for the internet seems high (and that's my regular place - I have to come to a more expensive place to upload pictures).


As a western traveler Indonesia is so cheap, but the flip side of that means the western world and other developed countries are out of reach for most Indonesians to visit. Some will go and work, but then they are earning better wages. The thought of paying $20 to get into a museum in New York would probably be shocking for most. Of course, most would never have the plump savings account that the US requires before giving a tourist visa. One of my friends said he would love to see a show on Broadway, but that he’ll never have that savings account. He works hard and does many jobs and it still won’t be enough. For many people here working 8 hours a day, 6 days a week is a part-time job. Others I’ve met are content to work and earn less. As a tourist I am constantly asked if I need transport or a taxi as I walk down the street. It gets annoying because if I wanted a taxi I’d be looking for one, but I have to remember that these men are trying to earn a basic living. Now they will rip you off if you don’t know the proper rates or negotiate, but they are trying hard to get work. One of my favorite lines for trying to sell his service was a man who told me, “You look tired. Need transport.”


After my walk yesterday I walked some more to go to the Supermarket and then to my friends who work in a warung (canteen) at a public high school. By this time I was hot and exhausted. The cold Sprite and stool they gave me just heavenly. They also gave me some delicious chicken noodle soup. Their work ebbs and flows with the students classes and I hung out for 3 hours. The girls and boys are separated in their classes and lunch periods. They all wear a uniform and girls have to wear their hair in two side braids. Is this to remind them that they are kids because no adults wear this style? I think their teachers would have been shocked by my students with short hair, red hair, shaved hairs, etc. And they’d be even more shocked that I could not say anything about it (not that I felt the need to). The students have to pay for their breakfast and lunch, but there are several sellers for them to choose from.


They all take English class and those I spoke with said it was their favorite subject – are they trying to flatter me? Most of the boys were too shy to talk to me, but had much to say to my friends in Indonesian. The girls were less shy so I spoke with several. Many want to go to university after high school, but for others graduation seemed too far away to make a decision.


The other people working the canteens were very nice and those who spoke English were happy to chat. One woman was especially friendly and generous. She kept inviting me into her section that had a fan. She gave me some food and cold water, but wouldn’t let me pay for anything. And this is after she had been telling me about how hard it is for Balinese to earn a living. She has two children, both at university. Her son is going to be a teacher and her daughter a nurse. She said the universities are expensive and getting a loan is not an option. She earns little money I’m sure, but gets up at 3am to start cooking for the students and is at the school until 5pm. Her husband is a teacher in another village. She invited me to come back and visit, which I would really enjoy. I asked her to take a picture with me (it’s here) and she reluctantly agreed. She was shy and thinks herself old looking. I thought she was beautiful and when she told me she was 55 I was surprised. She said the hard work is making her hair turn grey.


I met a few teachers who were passing through and one encouraged me to apply for a job. They want teachers from around the world. I probably won’t do that, but it was kind of him.


Oh, one thing I was told that is interesting is that if an unmarried young woman (not sure if her age matters) gets pregnant the father has to marry her or she goes to prison for 3 years. Apparently, some men will wait until the woman is pregnant to marry her because they want to make sure she is fertile.


My 2 friends and I walked about 15 minutes back to the center of Ubud for a royal funeral. King of Puri Agung Peliatan raja, Ida I Dewa Agung Peliatan, died on August 21, but his funeral is just beginning. He is from another village and his cremation will occur on November 2, but there were religious ceremonies in Ubud and a procession of some of the materials for the cremation to Peliatan. I caught the end of procession of people going into the Ubud Palace (where I saw the dancing the other night). I don’t know how you are chosen to be part of the procession, maybe they are high caste. Different groups within the procession wore different clothes though. And two children, a girl and a boy, were carried in throne like chairs. Then they were carried by men into the palace. I assume they were royalty too. There were even 2 elephants to mark the occasion. There were dozens of men sitting around in uniformed t-shirts and they were the ones to carry the dragon and other objects to Peliatan. This Royal Cremation involves 30 villages and is the biggest event of its kind – lucky timing for me!


I grabbed my sarong and headed back to the palace because that was my pass to get into the area where there was dancing, singing and spiritual rituals being carried out. One of my friends was tired and headed home, but the other wanted to stay. They are from Java and are Muslim rather than Hindu so this ritual was new for them. My friend who stayed didn’t want to wear a sarong so I headed into the palace on my own. There was lots of waiting, but then the dancing began. The first two dancers seemed like monsters meant to scare away evil – they definitely scared the children! The Dikse (Balinese Hindu religious leader) came after the dancing had begun and began his lengthy rituals. Repetition seemed to be part of the ritual, but I really don’t know all that happened. Part way through, he put on an opulent headdress and more garb onto his body. He also seemed to bless some of the offerings and things that were then taken by mostly women to the dragon. The dragon will be part of the procession on the day of the cremation. However, the body is inserted into another decorated structure that is 25 meters high and will be burned. This royal bade is made of different woods and bamboo and elaborately decorated with gold and Hindu figures. It is shaped like a tower. These things will be carried 3 km on the day of the cremation.


I’m not sure how long the ceremonies went on yesterday because I grew so tired and decided to leave. I showered and lay in bed reading for hours before heading out quickly and then going to bed at 9pm. :)


I included the picture of the Mini Mart (like a 7Eleven) because it tickled me that they advertised themselves as a "hangout place."


I’m trying to find someone who could use my help for a month, but if that doesn’t happen I’ll probably move on next week. There’s a boat to Flores that stops along the way or I can fly on to Kalimantan (the Indonesian section of Borneo). Flores is apparently very conservative so difficult for women to travel to, especially alone. Even with that said an expat American woman said it was still one of her best trips. The island is supposed to be gorgeous. Borneo is expensive to get to, but has orangutans. Not many people seem to go there – I guess because it’s not as convenient. I actually haven’t met one person who has been there, but a couple acquaintances know people who loved it.


You might have heard about the tragic tsunami and volcano eruption on two of the islands here. I'm not on either island and am safe, but it's caused such tragic deaths and destruction. So far I haven't heard a lot of talk about it, but I'm sure there is a lot of talk. It is all over the papers.


I’ve been traveling about 7 weeks now so have far surpassed the length of my other solo trips. But I’m feeling really good and happy. I haven’t felt lonely too often and with the internet I don’t feel so far away. Actually, by traveling alone I get to meet many more people along the way – and, of course, I can do everything on my timetable. I listened to my music for the first time in awhile last night. I've rationed it because I'm afraid to plug it into their outlets. It felt a bit disjointed to be listening to that music here. I've heard American music in restaurants, but I think the disjointed feeling came from bringing my music and therefore my old life with me here. I enjoyed listening to the music, but it did make my mind follow the thread to my past life in New York. I want to focus on the here and now and embrace this journey. I'm sure if I listen to the music more the link won't feel as strong, but it was startling last night.